{"product_id":"how-we-change-and-ten-reasons-why-we-dont","title":"How We Change: (And Ten Reasons Why We Don't)","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eThe Coronavirus\u003cbr\u003epandemic has revealed a very big secret we've been keeping from ourselves and\u003cbr\u003eeach other: We can be remarkably agile in the face of change. \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eHow is it\u003cbr\u003ethat we are able to so radically and rapidly change our daily behavior in order\u003cbr\u003eto follow the social distancing and stay-at-home policies during the pandemic, \u003cbr\u003eand yet--pandemic or not--we typically find it difficult, if not impossible, to\u003cbr\u003ereach smaller personal goals like dieting, getting organized or changing\u003cbr\u003edestructive habits? \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThe\u003cbr\u003epandemic is life-threatening, so it ignites our survival instincts, activating\u003cbr\u003ethat part of our brains charged with speedily and efficiently getting us to\u003cbr\u003esafety. But cholesterol, alcohol, and\u003cbr\u003ephysical passivity are all life-threatening, and many of us humans have done a\u003cbr\u003elousy job changing in regard to these issues, even when we have reliable\u003cbr\u003einformation that they are killing us. Why do we struggle to change what would\u003cbr\u003eso obviously help ourselves individually?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eRoss\u003cbr\u003eEllenhorn's book, \u003cem\u003eHow we Change (and the Ten Reasons Why We Don't)\u003c\/em\u003e gives\u003cbr\u003ea fascinating answer. A clinician and\u003cbr\u003ethought leader in the mental health and addiction fields, he suggests that\u003cbr\u003ewe're often looking in the wrong direction when we try to decipher the factors that\u003cbr\u003esupport human change. He suggests that\u003cbr\u003eit's much more fruitful to look at why we \u003cem\u003edon't\u003c\/em\u003e change, than figure out\u003cbr\u003ewhy we do. By looking at the reasons we don't change, we give ourselves the\u003cbr\u003ebest chance of actually changing in meaningful ways. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eEllenhorn explains\u003cbr\u003ehow we are wired to double down on the familiar because of what he calls the\u003cbr\u003e\"Fear of Hope\" - the act of protecting ourselves from further\u003cbr\u003edisappointment--and identifies the \"10 Reasons Not to Change\" to help us see why\u003cbr\u003ewe behave the way we do when we are faced with the challenge of hope. Among\u003cbr\u003ethem are: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e- \u003cbr\u003eTo change means raising\u003cbr\u003eyour expectations and thus risking that you'll disappoint yourself.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e- \u003cbr\u003eOnce you change, you are\u003cbr\u003emore accountable to make other changes than if you stayed the same\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e- \u003cbr\u003eWhen you change, your\u003cbr\u003efuture become much less predictable.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e- \u003cbr\u003eChange means destroying\u003cbr\u003epsychological monuments you've built to commemorate past injuries\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e- \u003cbr\u003eEvery time you change, \u003cbr\u003eyou raise the possibility of losing or disrupting your relationship with\u003cbr\u003ecertain people\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBy addressing this little known reality of\u003cbr\u003efear of hope, and how it influences the 10 Reasons Not to Change, Ellenhorn\u003cbr\u003eactually gives us hope, helping us to work toward the change we seek. Ellenhorn\u003cbr\u003espeaks to the core of our insecurities and fears about ourselves, with a humor\u003cbr\u003eand kindness. By turning our judgments about self-destructive behaviors into\u003cbr\u003ecurious questions about them, he teaches us to think about our actions to\u003cbr\u003ediscover what we truly want - even if we're going about getting it in the wrong\u003cbr\u003eway. \u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eHow We Change\u003c\/em\u003e is a brilliant approach that will forever alter our\u003cbr\u003eperspective - and help us achieve the transformation we truly seek. \u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Harper Paperbacks","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":51939466412263,"sku":"9780062961105","price":19.99,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0449\/4075\/5096\/files\/imageloader_326dc6ed-b7b4-4bc2-b295-1774553a3acd.jpg?v=1775106026","url":"https:\/\/arvidabookco.com\/products\/how-we-change-and-ten-reasons-why-we-dont","provider":"Arvida Book Co.","version":"1.0","type":"link"}